“No, I can’t do it”, is a very hard sentence for me to say. When I worked in the corporate world, I felt it was a sign of weakness, a sign of a bad attitude, a sign of NOT being a team player. Because of that, I frequently took work home; I scheduled conference calls when my child was sick, and I “got the job done.” Yes, I rarely said no at work, however when it came to my family that was an entire different story.
I always said yes, no matter how difficult the task and my family paid the price. Many times, my husband picked up our girls from daycare because of a pressing assignment to work.
Please note my boss did not tell me to stay, I stayed because of my own pride.
My family always took a back seat to my job.
Fast forward eighteen months, and although I have traded in my crisp white blouse, pencil skirt, and pumps for a t-shirt, khaki skirt, and flip flops, and corporate culture for full-time motherhood, I am still putting other “things” before my family.
It’s tricky, because most of these “things” I am talking about are wonderful “things”, events at church, sports and enrichment activities for my daughters. One commitment in its self is not bad, however when loaded one on top of another, the schedule becomes overwhelming.
I have found I have a better attitude and my children are calmer and happier if we have some down time, some unstructured family time during the weekdays and on the weekend.
So, I am going to start saying no. If you are one of the people I say no to, please understand I am doing it for the sake of my family and for my own sanity.
Do you ever struggle with saying no?